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Self-forgiveness is a learned skill, Heather. Forgive and forget is bullsh*t.

Betrayal seems to have its own combination to the brain's memory vault, and I wish I had a delete button to clear some memories.

Over many years, I learned that rather than just shift my mindset away from all that crap (failing, betrayal, loss), I had to acknowledge and notice those emotions in a different way.

It was like shaking hands with all that mind chatter and finding another perspective.

It's interesting that for me the self-forgiveness process is similar to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's 5 stages of grief.

I'm checking out the 8 steps book you mentioned.

Thanks for adding the book section at the end.

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