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Venkatesh Bhardwaj's avatar

This is true. I must say i have never thought of underperforming employees shifting blame onto others as gaslighting. Always thought of it as a lack of accountability, integrity, mental resilience etc etc but i think this is a great insight you provide. But you are right - it is gaslighting to a large extent.

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Heather Townsend's avatar

It can be all those things. But when you start to doubt your own mind this moves it into gaslighting in my opinion.

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Mrs Nicky Larkin's avatar

Spot on as always Heather. Particular takeaway is stopping the conversation as the other party will be using your responses as ammunition.

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Heather Townsend's avatar

Thank you! I really struggle to NOT justify myself. There are many times I repeat to myself “remember pigs and they love wrestling in mud”.

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